topology.tuple.deserialization.strict.enable does not terminate the worker for failures wrapping an IOException #9157

Observed with topology.tuple.deserialization.strict.enable set to true (the flag from #9094):

When an incoming tuple fails to deserialize and the failure carries an IOException in its cause chain, the receiving worker does not terminate. The connection is closed, the batch being read, including tuples that decoded fine, is discarded, and the peer reconnects. Failures without an IOException in the chain, such as unknown task or stream ids, do terminate the worker.

The path: DeserializingConnectionCallback.recv rethrows the failure in strict mode, the exception reaches StormServerHandler.exceptionCaught, and Utils.handleUncaughtException is called with an allowed-exception set containing only IOException. The check walks the cause chain, and both ZstdUtils.decompress and KryoTupleDeserializer.deserializeTuple wrap IOException in a RuntimeException, so compressed-frame failures (a broken frame, or decompression over topology.tuple.compression.max.decompressed.bytes) match the exemption. The handler logs, closes the channel, and returns.

Two consequences beyond the worker staying alive:

• The whole batch in flight is lost, including tuples that decoded fine.
• deserializationFailures is not incremented, because the strict path rethrows before the counter.

Two directions:

• Make strict mode fatal uniformly, for example by consulting the flag where the IOException exemption is applied, at the cost of turning what the messaging layer today treats as a connection error into a worker restart.
• Keep the split and document it, which is the state after Throw a typed exception for tuples with unknown task or stream ids and add a deserialization strict mode #9094: the Config javadoc and docs/Serialization.md describe both outcomes.

Follow-up from the review discussion in #9094. Related: #9077.